It's as if we've chosen a path to be 'free' yet in our desire to be free we get bogged down by 'what should be' not what is at any moment.
If you're rightly just pissed off... and you wonder why is the world so moronic on any given day, yet you still call forth that lightworkness of 'unconditional love' how can you really genuinely 'muster' it.
In fact, when you see both sides of any given issue, when you truly see where the person with the hammer is coming from as well as the person who is experiencing the 'hammer' or victim... you no longer place them in categories of perpetrator or victim - we've done both (if we are truly honest with ourselves). We all have the ability to be nasty to someone and if we're truly honest with ourselves we'd say we have done this... )
If you continually hate/rail against that which causes you pain, you create more of your own pain. You become not only the victim but the perpetrator of your own pain... this in turn, will turn you against others. You no longer see compassion as compassion, but pity as you fear you are being 'patronized' - you no longer see free sharing as about the person who wrote it, but about 'you' and your inadequacies so you have to 'defend' yourself and correct the other. Their words are no longer their own, but a reflection of who you don't want to be, but are and you can't see it as fine as 'just is' - it has to be changed to suit a particular way of thinking.
For example, you may say to me - 'why do you write in the second person? Why do you distance yourself from what you write by creating a fictious you? Or in fact do you believe the 'you' in what I write is actually the 'you' I refer to? If so, then I suggest you find out what you find so offensive?'
In the end it's all relative - this isn't a 'war' - this isn't a drama, this is just an 'experience' - you see what you want to see... I perceive what you see, and I am you and you are me... we are in this together...