1. Tennis. Men's final. Federer hits a great top - spin backhand down the line! What a shot! Djokovic scrambled well but even he couldn't get to that one! So that's it, game set and... Woah! What? The line judge calls it out!! What!! To do a John McEnroe on it, "You cannot be serious!!". Federer protests - and so do I! This is unjust! I can't believe it! I just KNOW Djokovic is gonna regroup now! Arrrgh!!!
2. There's one slice of cake left. Everyone had theirs, and that piece is mine! Looks delicious! Just gonna make myself a nice cuppa coffee, then I'll immerse myself in chocolate heaven! I get up, turn on the kettle, ta ta da, one spoon of coffee, dum de dum, one spoon of sugar - ah, need some milk so off to the fridge, dum de - Heyyyy!!! What the F***!!! Get your damn hands off my caaakkkee!!! Its mine godammitt! You already HAD your piece!!!
3. Geez my hands are sweating. Is this shirt ok? Oh my God, I never polished my SHOES!! How's my hair? Too short? I told that bloody barber 'normal' - just a normal haricut!! How's my posture? Straighten your back for Gods sake!! Ok , well there she is, here goes nothing...
Ok, some examples of attachment there, lol! We all know the feeling. In relation to so many things, from 'you stole my parking space!' to 'Please don't let there be a nuclear war', from "I want to watch 'Star Trek Voyager', not this 'Desperate Houswives rubbish" to 'Bring down the Bankers! They caused this mess!!', attachment is such a common everyday experience. It is a normal part of being human. Some may say that 'detachment' means being aloof in these instances, feeling emotionally unaffected. I don't believe that really has anything to do with the spiritual idea of 'detachment'.
The guy angered by the unjust tennis - call, raging about the cake thief, and panicking over his date, was, strange though it may seem, actually practising detachment! Because while that was happening, he was simultaneously observing his emotions. He was 'in the emotion and seperate from it' at the same time through the pracise of self - observation, inner witnessing, attuning to the 'I' that looks upon the 'me'. This inner observing presence in INHERENTLY detached. It looks, it sees, thats all. It gazes silently upon the love, hate, fear, need, pain, joy, desire, etc etc, the whole spectrum of this human emotion, the whole ebb and flow of 'me', as it is, whatever it is. This is the real meaning of detachment in my view - to be in the state of inner witnessing, to bring one's fractured individual self into the Light of the Timeless Observing Presence. This is to be automatically attuned to the 'Dimension of Detachment'. The individual self, this 'me' I know myself to be, cannot really practise detachment, because it is the object upon which the transpersonal non - dual timeless 'Dimension of Detachment', one's core 'I' Presence, is focused.
That is what detachment means to me. Be well! :-)