Every human parent strives to provide the best for their children. Every parent wants to see their child grow into a happy, healthy individual. It brings a lot of pain when things go wrong, for you have brought up your children thinking that you know what is best for them.
Many times children are looked down upon as little people who do not know anything, and well-intentioned parents, teachers, and gurus try to impose their beliefs, ideas, fears, rules and laws on the children. The result produces fear, when there is fear there is no place for love.
It has become a collective learned human behavior to always be behind the children telling them what they should do and should not do, and also believe that punishment was for the child's good. This created so much fear in the child, and fear made the child to break the laws and also be careful not to get caught. By creating laws and fear we are teaching them to cheat and lie. We go on infecting children with ideas which have not even proved valid in our own lives. Many things we ask our children to do might not have been acceptable to us when we were in their age.
By forcing our children we do not allow them to be authentic, they fear that they would hurt us if they are true, and they feel hurt when they are not true to themselves.
Many times we forget that we only gave a part of our physical bodies to our children, but the Spirit that activates the body comes only from the Creator. Children were never our possessions in the first place, in this planet we are only their guardians.
If we realize this truth, we will also come into the understanding that we really do not know what is right or what is wrong for our children. They were brought into this world by the Creator through us. And the one that brought them into this world knows them more than we do.
Parenting is an art, and the best and most effective way to parenting is to serve as an example and not to impose our will.
Children need privacy and freedom, they are also individual souls who need to be respected, and allowed to be themselves. They are not here to fulfill somebody's ideas. Their future is open and supported by a loving Creator.
A wise parent is one who is there to give support, courage, and confidence to the child without harassing the child to live up to his/her expectations.
A wise parent understands that every human is beautifully programmed by the wisdom of the Creator, there are no accidents, and everything goes according to the program.
The best gift a parent can give the child is allowing and accepting the child to be his/her natural self wherever it leads to, and you will be surprised by the magic and miracles that get created by this acceptance.
~Premlatha / Goddesslove ~