The ideas of Polar Opposites and Sacred Sex both revolve around a centre of Spiritual Union in the One...never to be known fully by any other than Itself. We can talk of Spiritual union in the One as existential fact regardless of the degree of awareness of this permanent state of Being that we may possess. And we can talk of an awareness of a state of Spiritual Union in the One in ever expanding graduations, but we cannot talk of anything existing externally or independantly of the One, the entirely Real.
If we consider the Kosmos(and I use the Greek word Kosmos rather than cosmos because the former Greek meaning included the spiritual and mental), which in respect to us is the Multiverse at large, immanent, mysterious, living, independent, implacable and infinite. We can then consider ourselves each one as an infintesimally insignificant fragment of the Whole, where we find ourselves dependant, weak, finite and clueless.
Talking metaphorically, in this dependant role within the Kosmos, at this level of effective awareness, you are as a spouse presented to be seeded with the Kosmos' own self-consciousness and a relative independence. But as a bride awaiting her lover must prepare herself and the bridal chamber for receiving this gift from the act of love, so too you must prepare your instrument to carry the eternal life it is entrusted with.
In this relationship you are a subject and the Kosmos is your Ruler, your Lord and your Master. There is only It and you, lover and beloved, and this state of affairs exists existentially for each and every arising of consciousness without exception. Further, from a related perspective, you and the Kosmos are one; the lover and the beloved are one. This is the polar opposite in its most fundamental aspect. Pink Floyd's words “All you touch and all you see, is all your life will ever be”, describes the beginning of the understanding that life reveals in stages your own actual expanded self. This is who you share Sacred Sex with. Therefore sacred sex is far more than a mere coupling of two bodies, it is the entertwining of the energies of the Kosmos Itself, in a way a kind of transcendental masturbation, if you can bear the thought, ho ho.
So in terms of relationships between these innumerable fragments of Kosmic Consciousness - between these unique manifestations of Divine Will which can also be thought of as divine thought forms of all sizes and shapes in Divine Kosmic Mind - there is only love of self and the Other, there is only the divine Kosmos holding hands with Itself, knowing Itself from an infinite range of perspectives.
Therefore, from my reasoning so far, I can positively say that the concept of Polar Opposites is without validity, except in the relationship of one subjective consciousness to the Kosmos at large. It follows that from the perspective of this subjective consciousness, each intelligent being(the Kosmos in person) may legitimately be regarded as an actual lover, soul-mate and alter-ego. Obviously, certain rules of nature prevent sex with some beings and social conditioning prevent others. For example, humans cannot mate with elephants or rats, though no doubt both have been tried. Yuk! The point is that save for certain natural and social restrictions effecting certain modes of loving, each person or being encountered in the film of your life is your legitimate and natural 'spouse', capable in some measure as compatable.To repeat, in this enlarged understanding of reality as it is, there is no place for the idea of a permanent special other, nor a specific polar opposite save in the relationship of subject and Kosmos. There is however, a place for discrimination of kind, in that the optimal arrangement for your spiritual unfolding can be accelerated within the influence of co-linear personalities.
And now we have placed the concept of Polar Opposites into a understandable framework. Lets now review the concept of Sacred Sex.
We have already seen how our hypothesised state of Sacred Sex, being Spiritual by nature must also be conscious and of a state of expanded awareness that is greater than that which we can experience in our normal day to day lives.
It follows that Sacred Sex is performed in Service to Others, but only by those with the capacity for the required expanded awareness. Sacred Sex as we have implied is a condition of interaction within the intermingling currents of the Kosmos, of which we are all legitimate parts. We are all participants in an infinite, but undulating mosaic of Kosmic Knowing, and that implies that Sacred Sex is not only of this world, but out of it as well!
Sacred Sex then, being by definition a spiritual activity, must be qualified by expanded awareness. This necessarily involves the conscious observation of both oneself and ones partner in the entire sexual act that occurs. Only then can it be said to be spiritual and not mundane.
The state of combined attention that conscious sex generates results in a lucid union that is greater than the sum of its parts. This Sacred Act has the capacity to transform the participants in such a way that their lives are soaked in the afterglow of this union in a timeless manner. The discipline of the practices of self-remembering during the intimate encounter colour their subsequent lives and all that they touch, effectively raising environmental harmonic frequency, thus enabling the finer energies of existence to be assimilated in those touched by the divine couple. The whole is greater than its parts.
It doesn't seem to be of much importance in choosing a specific mate, just as long as love is tempered by appropriate knowledge, and is mutually worked at with conscious awareness and a deep sense of honour for life.
Finally, to the Accomplished, all facets of life are sacred, including sex if it is chosen to be employed.
So how do we behave in this natural state of freedom, how do we choose an appropriate partner and how do we cope with the inevitable loss of that partner. We must be honest with ourselves, we will pass and our lovers will pass, but we pass alone. We will change and our relationships will change, and as new needs in education and life dictate changes of school, occupation and location, so too changes in friends and lovers will be our experience. But there are some who will change with you – these few are co-linear with you and are your companions – you will know them over time and eventually, the most resonant potential relationships will manifest and pale all others into insignificance. But here and now, what do we do, if we can do anything at all.
Let us start with the concept of Anarchy and see how its natural order can help us feel our way forward, for the established authorities we now know and rely on for our needs have been proven to be without true knowledge of reality as it is. This fact sets us apart from the mainstream, and in a way, they become our enemies, for they will incessantly pull us down to their limited level of awareness. And the doctrines do make it clear that our families and friends are the first agents of the General Law to try to prevent us from breaking the chains that still bind us. They do this primarilly out of fear for themselves, not out of consideration for you. Be prepared to live with tall poppy syndrome where the stupid hate and fear those with knowledge. You are warned.
Anarchy by definition accepts a natural order without need for governmental oversight. Anarchy is essentially anti-authoritarian and therefore a threat to the status quo which explains the lack of serious consideration of Anarchy's benefits. Anarchy will not allow control of others falling into the hands of psychopaths masquerading as democrats or enlightened rulers after all – and then they might have to work like the rest of us, if we let them survive.
Lets make our stand on the position that a functional family unit with access to the needs of life and the complete absence of distorted mental processes typical of the psycho-pathological personality, will naturally establish an order that nurtures and preserves the participants over the full course of their lifetimes, and further, perpetuates the extended family through time as a community. Yes morals develop as do localised social rules pertaining to conservation, but within these few parameters the participant has full freedom to develop the full range of his or her personality to the limits of capacity.
This natural and contemporaneously relevant matrix which supports and nurtures each member without the need for governmental oversight, and which comes into existence purely as a natural response to human need, can only be preserved in the absence of authoritarian policy which therefore should be resisted at all cost. Additionally, this natural order is the same for all peoples on this planet with only slight variations indicated by geographic location.
So try to find your own natural order by disarming the pathological mental circuits that cause you to accept authoritarianism. Practise self-remembering and observation so you can rationalise your own perspective on the Real. Once you find your natural order, build on it and make it your own authority. Only you can set yourself free, and when at last free to love without measure, do not pause to measure it. Rather, measure yourself against love.
Our job then, as spiritually awakened beings and agents for knowing love, in attendance on this planet at its time of celestial reset, is to dismantle in the minds of our lovers that distortion of understanding of themselves and the Kosmos which has been programmed into them as they lie asleep, and which lie they accept as the truth. Bearing in mind that each is on the learning cycle at an individual level, and that free will must not be compromised, we must prepare for their spiritual awakening into awareness with forms of spiritual light, fresh air, and nutrition. We do this with tenderness and respect, understanding that they are the potential bearers of infinite conscious life. We know they will awaken some time, and we know where. All we can do is ensure their safety in their sleep, preventing the known dangers. This is not interfering with free will, but pulling them up or forcing their eyes open without a specific request is.
This consideration of the above is itself an expression of Sacred Sex that has nothing at all to do with physical sex. Both are an intertwining of the energies of the Absolute, but only one is attentively conscious. Only one is Real. The other is a passing shadow only, but can be used as a tool for technicians of ecstasy.
So love your beloved endlessly, with all your Being, and behave from conscious attention as the energies of each encounter allow. Other than these two sensibilities, do as you will shall be the whole of the law. Just bear in mind that all acts toward others are in fact an act toward self and you will bear the consequences without fail. Such is Karma.
Be in Love, but Be with 'eyes wide open'. Feed love with true knowledge and watch it flame into awareness and take flight - flying straight back to you. Everything is a circle.
Now if you cannot be with the one you love, attentively love the one you are with.
With love born of knowledge my beloved