New Members: It is recommended you read from the beginning of the archive, as previous lessons are prerequisite to this one. The first lesson is, "Why This Discussion?" at http://aypsite.com/10.html
Q: I am sort of a sex maniac. I can't seem to get enough of it. My wife takes every opportunity to encourage me, so she must be one too. Needless to say, we have a very active sex life. In the past year we have gotten interested in Tantra and Yoga, but we have not been able to get our sex under control. We don't even know if we are supposed to get it under control. It is beginning to concern me that I am draining myself of vitality every day. I know it can't go on like that forever if I hope to achieve anything spiritually. You have given many practical methods for Yoga and we are very grateful, but we are still hooked on sex. What do you suggest?
A: If your desire is strong to bring your active sex life into the realm of yoga, much can be done using the methods of tantra. It will not necessarily mean curtailing your sex life. That can go on naturally as before. It will mean developing some discipline in the form of specific techniques you can use during sex, and these you can practice together. There are other techniques you can practice alone. Then you will find sex gradually becoming part of the larger picture of your overall yoga practices.
In most situations, it is the man who holds the keys to tantra in sexual relations, because it is he who experiences the greatest loss of prana, and it is he who usually determines the duration of the sex act. No matter how much a woman may long for tantric unions, it is the man who must first facilitate them. Then it can become heaven for both the man and woman.
Once a man becomes committed to manage the loss of prana, and thereby lengthening the duration of sexual union, a new mode of lovemaking will evolve that is in the direction of yoga. Then sex can become a strong facilitator of the union of the masculine and feminine energies within us, along the same lines as mulabandha and siddhasana.
Tantric sex, while not at the heart of advanced yoga practices, is an important skill to develop, especially if we are inclined to have sex often. It is an extension of the principles of siddhasana, really, where we are cultivating sexual energy upward into our nervous system as it is being gradually being purified using the full range of advanced yoga practices.
The sexual methods of tantra we will discuss are to support the overall goals of the advanced yoga practices we have been discussing in these lessons, without putting any sort of draconian limits on our freedom to make love whenever we like. Applying and gradually mastering the sexual methods of tantra frees us from the negative stigmas that sometimes get attached to sex. Sex becomes another aspect of our spiritual anatomy that we have the means to nudge toward the higher purpose of our enlightenment. Sexual relations become an aid to our spiritual evolution rather than remaining an obstacle. At the same time, we gradually come to enjoy sex in ways we may have never imagined. Good tantra is very liberating all the way around.
To honor requirements regarding the posting of sexual content, we will continue the tantra discussion in a separate adults-only group that has been created for this purpose. It is the same format as this group, except it is for adults only.
You can view the AdvancedYogaPractices_Tantra group and have immediate access to the lessons there by going to this link:
So, for those of you who are interested, the rest of the tantra discussion will be posted over there, including any questions and answers that come up pertaining to tantric sexual methods and experiences. A couple of lessons have been posted already, with more to come. Because the tantra group will be of limited scope, it is not expected to have a large number of lessons. It will cover only those matters relating to tantra that are best discussed in an adults-only environment. It is the "tantra group," while this discussion here is the "main group."
The lessons here in the main group will continue along the lines that have been indicated. As you know, there is much more to cover on advanced yoga practices, and we will carry on here. It is expected that the main body of these lessons will be completed by mid year.
The guru is in you.
Note: For detailed instructions on tantric sexual methods, see the AYP Tantra book at http://aypsite.com/books.html#tantra