Needing help with Perspective!! I am not feeling the love!!!

Ok, so I have an 18 year old daughter - who is not feeling well, who refused to make her own appt today for the doctor's office. She didn't want to go by herself... so, I had had appts this morning and had to drive a couple of hours and couldn't reschedule - so I called her dad, and asked him if he could take her and of course, he had appts too... so, I left it alone. Then the ex calls at 1:30, stating he was heading back home and had Riss gotten the appt yet? I told him, "no" and he comes in with "well, I'll save the day and call the clinic" At this point, I was like - whatever.

SO, she can't get an appt with the clinic, but they are going to call in a prescription. So he called me to tell me I could pick it up at Wal-mart. (Keep in mind for later reference, that I spent 2 hours there to pick up the prescription... they were really busy!!!!) She calls me at 2pm and asks me if I can stop and get her ice cream on the way home. I tell her I can, but it won't be til 4 - as I am still 2 hours away. I asked her if she asked her Dad to go get it for her... and she had, but he stated to her he wasn't going to run any more errands that afternoon.

Keep in mind, at this point, he had already called me and told me he was headed to the track to watch the pre-derby stuff..Needless to say, I about imploded. I don't mind getting her dairy queen on the way home, but a) she has a car and b) he is a flipping mile up the road and HAS TO DRIVE PAST THE HOUSE to get to the track.

Ok, so now that this sounds like a flipping Jerry Springer episode, LOL. God forbid anyone out of the country even recognize the name, let alone know the show.

I guess my question is, How does one deal with this? Do you get upset or think, everything is as it should be or does one make one's lazy daughter move in with one's even lazier ex-husband? And, no, it isn't being judgemental! They truly are... this is one instance where you can clearly show that the apple doesn't fall far from the tree.

Ok, so thanks for listening to me vent... just trying to get perspective on how I "should be" reacting to this, as I would really like to rip his eyes out and throw all of her things out on the front lawn, and all the while realizing that it isn't a loving feeling that i am coming from with all of this! Love you all... thanks for listening!!Karen