People, Who "Needs" People?

Why have I chosen such a path of loneliness this lifetime? Most times I enjoy and need my “aloneness,” but now and then loneliness creeps in and makes this life feel almost unbearable.

But only when you get lost in the illusion, for you are never alone.

I know, I know-We “are never alone,” You are “always with” us, we “all have so many angels, guides and beings” with us, but I am talking about people “with skin.” Surely you know how much we need that.

But you do not need that. Want it? Yes. Deserve it? Yes. Enjoy it? Yes. Need? No. You do not need that and this is the lesson you are being given.

Hmmm…need versus want. Well, according to Barbra Streisand, “People who need people are the luckiest people in the world.”

And how old were you when that song was first sung by her?

Okay, very young.

At that time, people “needed” to connect. The time of fearing each other was ending. The beginning of exposing the illusion of separateness had begun-“Reach Out and Touch Somebody’s Hand,” “Reach Out, I’ll be There,” “Call me. Don’t be afraid you can call me. Maybe it’s late but just call me.” Do you also remember those lyrics from that time?

Yes.

Do you see how your parents and grandparents needed to know/remember their connection to others? Do you not remember your mother “trying,” we repeat, “trying” to teach that you “needed” no one?

Your parents and grandparents believed these teachings would help you to not fear, to need no one, and to be self-reliant always. They did not see they were actually teaching you to fear. Again, we say, “trying” as they did not succeed with you. (We smile) You have always wanted to be and feel connected to others, so you have lived with this deep sense of loneliness that you speak of.

It is time to remember the difference between needing and wanting. You do not need others to feel connected, for you are always connected. You have the “desire” to “share” this lifetime and there is nothing wrong with that.

Know that when you stop longing so deeply, they will appear. Know that when you loosen your grip on the fear that loneliness brings, you open the door.

And remember in the meantime, that you are never alone. There are more loving energies around you each and every day than you will ever have the pleasure of having in the flesh. It’s just not possible.

~March 27, 2008