Meditating 101

Meditating 101
by Sandy Goodman



I am probably the last person that should be saying how, when, and where to
meditate. I have set a goal of daily meditation at least a hundred times,
and I haven't succeeded for more than three consecutive days. It isn't a
matter of not liking to meditate. I do, I really do. It is a matter of not
taking the time to do it. I need to make it a priority in my life, and as of
today, I haven't. So as you read what I think you should do, please take it
with a grain of salt.

First of all, some things to avoid:

1.. Don't try to force something to occur. If you go into a trance and see
Jesus, Buddha, and Elvis, that's fantastic. But don't go into your
meditation expecting it.

2.. Don't overevaluate the meditation. When it's over, enjoy the serenity
and just be with it as it is. Analyzing takes away the feeling.

3.. Don't spend a lot of time trying to make your mind empty. You will
experience a quieting of your mind, but it will happen spontaneously when
you find the right meditation.

4.. Don't worry about "doing it right." Any attempt to listen to your
heart is better than no attempt at all.
Now for the do's:

1.. Find a quiet place. No telephone, no television, no doorbell. If that
means you have to take a pillow into the bathroom and lock the door, then do
it. If the bathroom is a busy place at your home, I suggest you go to your
local cemetery. Take a flower, sit by a grave, and don't make eye contact
with anyone. I can almost guarantee you won't be bothered.

2.. Make sure you have gone to the bathroom and gotten a drink before you
start. If you're hungry, have a snack.

3.. Get comfortable. Take off your shoes, loosen your clothing, relax. I
cannot lay down without going to sleep, so I have to sit up. However, if you
can stay awake, lying down is fine.

4.. Close your eyes and relax your body. Beginning at your feet and moving
up to your head, tense and then relax every muscle group. Hold the tension
and inhale, then relax as you exhale. Once you get the hang of this, you
won't need to actually go through each step. A breath or two and you will
automatically relax.

5.. Focus on your breathing. Breathe in through your nose, and out through
your mouth. I am not sure why this works best, but it does. Make sure you
take deep breaths, filling your lungs and stomach. Hold each breath as long
as you can between the inhale and the exhale.
Okay, you're good to go. You can keep your eyes open if it works, or close
them if it doesn't. I close mine and stare at the back of my eyelids. If I
focus on that blackness, I can keep my thoughts at bay, which is what you
want to eventually accomplish.

After many periods of watching that black wall, I was elated when it
suddenly became three-dimensional. One minute I was looking at a flat
surface, and the next minute I was in it. I felt like I could plunge into
it, fly forever, and never touch physical matter. You will also see colors.
Great splotches of iridescent colors, floating in from behind or approaching
from in front of you. Just observe as you would a movie, and stay relaxed.
Don't make the mistake of assuming that your meditation is complete if and
when you stop seeing colors. Your meditation is complete when you choose to
stop. Twenty to thirty minutes is good, and you'll most likely start feeling
antsy by then. Just bring your awareness back to where you are and end your
meditation.

There are numerous techniques for meditation. You might prefer listening to
soothing music without vocals. There are tapes available that use a
repeating tone (binaural beat) devised to shift your brain waves into
specific states. Staring at a focal point and concentrating only on it can
move some into a meditative state. It might be a blank space on a white
wall, a pattern in a carpet, or a candle flame. Repeating a mantra (short
phrase) either aloud or in your mind sometimes aids in reducing outside
thoughts and noise. There are guided meditations that can be purchased on
tape, or you can make your own by recording one in your own voice. Guided
meditations take you through a relaxation process and usually some other
type of "scene" where you are working toward a goal of centering, stress
reduction, weight loss, etc. Try different methods until you find what
works.

Centering is meditation in action . . . staying in the calm. Being centered
means not allowing your inner peace to be shattered by negative thoughts.
When you are centered you are in a state of clarity and balance. A good
centering technique will require only minimal concentration, permitting you
to keep the majority of your attention on whatever else it is you are doing
at the time. Here is an example of a very easy centering technique:

1.. Take several slow, deep breaths.
2.. With each in-breath, think or say "Breathe in calm."
3.. With each out-breath, think or say "Breathe out a smile." (It is
nearly impossible to not smile when you do this.)
Meditating is a process that allows me to shake off the business of living
in the physical. It erases the bills that are due tomorrow, the dishes that
need to be washed, and the list on my desk. It brings me back to what
matters, which is my center, which is love, which is what unites all of us.
It reminds me of who I am. When I meditate regularly, I am much more open to
what is going on beyond what I can see, hear, or touch. It's like a light
switch in a dark room. Once you find it and learn how and when to use it,
things become much clearer.

Okay, Meditating 101. Sit. Relax. Breathe. Accept. That's it. No
expectations, no rules. Do it regularly and you will never again be clueless
as to what to do when feeling overwhelmed and anxious.

Shared with Love and Light, Rosalie xo