Ego is not the enemy

So many times we have heard that we need to tame the ego or even kill it. We have heard the ego demonized and ridiculed. The ego has been labeled as "bad" or our "shadow self" or "dark side" or "little me". It is said to be selfish, manipulative, angry, jealous and controlling. All of these characteristics we judge as bad. We see our ego as at fault for holding us back. We hate what it is doing to us. We judge ourselves by judging it. We feel guilt and shame because we feel guilt and shame. We are ashamed of our fear. We are ashamed that we are not perfect. We feel as though we need to present an image to the world that we are all "light" (alright). We feel pressured to "BE" loving, compassionate, kind, supportive. We feel pressured to "BE" ONE with everyone. To carry their burden, share their pain, or walk in their shoes.

WHY???? Who do we "think" we are? You see in thinking that we need to be anything other than what we already are creates resistance to all that is.

Without ego we wouldn't be anything. Just a little blip of light. Don't get me wrong blips of light are beautiful but they can't dance and sing play with others. Our ego is that which was created to allow the universe/All That Is to experience itself experiencing itself. It is like a rainbow. If there was only one color it wouldn't be a rainbow by definition. Our ego is like one of those little colors. Each beautiful and catagorically important in creating the whole. Without each speck of color the rainbow can not exist.

The ego is a beautiful creation to give us the illusion of separation/individuality. The ego is not separate from us. It serves a purpose no less important than our skin. It protects us. The ego is a gift to show us what fears are holding us back from joy, freedom, peace and ease. It isn't our ego holding us back but our fears. When we look with gratitude at that which our ego is trying to show us, we see ourselves more completely. We are able to love ourselves more fully. We no longer hate what we are creating but are able to let it go easily. When we hate our ego(mind) we just create more drama to be healed. Until we realize it was our fear of our ego that was creating our pain not the ego itself.

To effectively see a change in our lives we must look at what our fears are creating and not our ego. Are we afraid of being seen as a bad person? Are we afraid of being judged? Are we afraid of looking arrogant, thoughtless, cruel, unkind, unloving, abusive, manipulative, controlling? Are we afraid of having to end a relationship? Are we afraid of having to stand in our truth with our family, friends, business partners, spouses, children? Are we afraid of having to say "NO"? Are we afraid of looking selfish if we ask for what we need? Are we afraid of having to walk away? Are we afraid that others would accuse us of not being a "lightworker"? It is our FEAR of these judgments that blocks us not our ego. Our ego is just kind enough to draw our attention to the issues. It is as though we shoot the messenger and ignore the message.

Some might argue that love wouldn't have you do any of these things and I would argue that it very well could. Love could have you walk away from a job with no promise of an income. Love could have you walk away from a friend whose vibration is in conflict with yours. Love could have you walk away from a lover or spouse so that you both may be able to be free. Love may have you make your children's lives very small so that they can be in joy. Love may have you walk away from parents. Love may have you hurt someone's feelings. Love often yells "NO" so that it can jubilantly shout "YES!!!"

It is our ego that is the gift that shows us these fears so that we may heal them and release them. It is in embracing our ego/shadow self that we begin to find freedom. When we see ourselves as all those things we fear, the veil drops and we understand what it means to be part of the All That IS. We are all of the "bad" in this world just as much as we are the "good". We are equally "dark" as we are "light". To deny it is to resist it, is to judge it, is to say that it isn't perfect, that it isn't God. To embrace it is FREEDOM!!!!! And we find ourselves acting in a place of non-attachment, non-judgement, peace and joy.

May you look in the mirror today and thank your ego for all it has helped you see and become. There may be some grief as there was for me as I realized that in hating my ego I was hating that part of me which loved me the deepest and was helping me the most.

Yours in joy,
Jenn