i am seeking some advice from those who are good at rallying people together, facilitating gatherings and creating meaning together with others.
late last year, as i realised who i am and sought the friendship of others like me in my immediate community, i couldnt find any groups that did exactly the kind of thing i was looking for. there were churches that were too conventional for me, there were spiritual churches where i felt like noone really had much direction, and there were meditation groups which were very specific to a type of meditation, and spiritual groups which gathered so that one person shared their knowledge/experiences/skills with everyone else.
i was looking for a community of people whose attention was on the spiritual path, whatever form that path took, and who got together not to lecture or meditate, but just to feel part of a community, and to share our experiences within an open and understanding space. i was also looking to then use that group power to channel our energies in ways that would help - to heal the planet, heal people that needed it, reach global leader, etc etc.
so i have had a group going through the meetup.com site, called 'spirituality, angels and indigos, meditation and all things love.' we meet once a month; i facilitate it, with the aim to create the community i just described. we have tried various ways to make every person in the group feel equal, to make it worthwhile for each person to come along both for themselves and what they feel they can do for others, and to not follow a traditional leader-listener structure but follow our intuition as to what would be suitable each time. what we are doing lately, is that we begin by tuning everyone in with group 'om' chanting. it clears the space and our minds it seems. then we go around the circle, either introducing ourselves and what our path has been like, or sharing with everyone what spiritual growth or experiences we have had since we last met. after each person talks we join hands and send that person a couple of minutes of energy and love to help them continue. we have a break, then this time we go around with people offering words of experience (advice) in response to what they`ve heard if they feel guided to do so. then we finish with me doing a guided meditation where we send love and light somewhere where we feel guided to send it. we close by joining hands again and saying a brief closing prayer. we have our meetups at a buddhist centre, where i protect the space with crystals, candles, aromatherapy, and call in angles and guides to be present with us. it`s a lovely cosy space. in between meetups i send out any lightworker-related information on a group mailout.
my question is this:
though this feels like it`s in the right direction (ive just done it a couple of times), i still find that people are not turning up every time. it has been 10 months, and despite an online membership of nearly 30 people in our area of which about half have turned up at least once, i find we get an average of about 3-4 people per meeting. i feel like this is because people dont feel like they really feel like they get enough out of it that though they may like it, if they have something else they could go to they would go to that instead. i tried for many months to encourage others the space to suggest their own ideas about things they would like to try in a group, and we did things like group reiki, om meditation and bodywork and various meditations as a group. i would like to see more of this but i feel like it can get quite tedious as people tend to be reluctant to speak up, and we can go for quite a long time. i also find that i tend to attract people who are just starting out with meditation, and if there are particularly strong lightworkers and angels that happen to find my group, though i end up being friends with them, they dont seem to stay long. i know i deifnitely want to create a community, but i feel like i might be missing doing something that would really make the group be a worthwhile place to come for lightworkers...does anyone have any good suggestions for activities or things that you have included that has worked for them? and is it okay that i seem to be attracting a particular group of people to this group, most of whom i didnt really expect to attract??
sorry for being a bit rambly, but i would appreciate any suggestions or observations!