My daughter

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Posted December 3rd, 2007 by dolphintouch32
My Eldest Daughter
As many of you know I have two most wonderful daughters and one little prince!..
But what most of you don't know is that my eldest daughter is one special girl. I am not here just to tell you of all her qualities and how much of a proud parent I am, anyone that knows me already know this lol! This is how I am going to let you in on a secret we have! Well it is not a secret but it is something not everyone knows…
Cheyenne is seven  turning eight near the end of the year. She is not like other children her age she is like a three year old. The Doctor tells us that she has just stopped developing mentally… Mother's with Autistic children say that she is definitely just that Autistic! Even Special school teachers from the different one's she has been to all say the same thing they say she has a form of Autism. Autism has a wide range from mild to worse and many in-between. So it is near impossible to compare one person with it with another. I like to think she is a Crystal Child, what ever the case she is different and she is my child and my heart and soul loves her to bits.
Below are some site on the web that has info on Crystal and Indigo Children.   
Personally I think all children and all adults are special and have a purpose on this earth. It is just that some of us get lost on the way. We need to take a hard long look at ourselves and ask why we must label and isolate anything that is different?!
Having a child that is 'so called' different opens up your mind on how people react to your child and how cruel other children can be! None of this seems to affect Cheyenne by the way! It seems to affect us as parents more. 
It is hard to say when we thought things where just not right! Cheyenne was after all our first child and we did not know what to expect of her. In what was normal development and what was not. As far as I can remember Cheyenne was normal she started walking a bit late but that was because she was over cautious and refused to let go of things! With her talking it seemed to becoming on nicely, she was starting to say mum and daddy, dog, nana etc. She was a 'little Michelin baby!' a little fatty, full of life and really bright big eyes!
A strong connection between Cheyenne and me, also my husband felt he had a very strong connection with her. We both instinctively knew what Cheyenne was feeling and even thinking. Yes I would say the connection was a very strong psychic one with our daughter.
I remember seeing show on TV and there was a father speaking about his Autistic child and how he felt as though his child was taken away!  Yes I guess I feel the same in a way, Cheyenne is still there but not the bright eyed child that once was…
This little girl of ours was and still is our pride and joy of our lives! She loves life and didn't know and still doesn't know the dangers out there in our world. Smiling and saying hello to everyone that walks on by not an ounce of judgment of should I say hi or not.
I fell pregnant to our second child it was after she was born that we noticed a withdrawn Cheyenne emerge.
We still made an effort to spend time with her and show her we loved her as much as we did before. The verbal communication slowed down and nearly stopped altogether. The connection didn't stop that was still as strong as ever but the bright girl changed.
As she got older we could not go out without leaving her leaving a pram or constantly holding on to her because she would have a clue about cars can hurt her. No matter how much we would try to explain nothing would get through. Even today you can not totally relax where a road is concern. Screaming and making noises is another matter that makes people stop and stare like she is some alien of some sort! 
When it came to School we found very quickly that normal School did not want or have the resources so she could be safe. The way other children and some parents reacted to her was so heart breaking! Some would avoid her like she had the plague! Some parent's conversations I would hear about how they did not want a child like her around there children. They didn't want teachers to waste time on a child that is not going to learn when they can teach the class etc. Some night I would just cry.
It took a few trials and errors but in the end we thought SpecialSchool would be in the best interest for Cheyenne. I must admit we were against the whole idea at first. As with anything Cheyenne had her ups and very down times. 
Now we have moved to a new town she has started a new School and guess what it is a normal one and she loves it! Some days she comes home singing and happy! I must add it is a section on it own with other special children but they do join the so called normal kids at the school.
We might have to look out and look after her and house her for the rest of her life but that is fine with us because we love her so much…  After all she is our princess Cheyenne!

So next time you see some one different say hello with a big genuine smile on your face. Please do not stare and whisper or treat them any different to anyone else. Try not to label or call them either they are who they are and no one else.