What Is Compassion by Andrea Hess

http://www.empoweredsoul.com/blog/?p=166

To me, compassion means when I am hurting and the person who was a part of bringing that hurt and pain to me for the strangest reason, surprisingly wrote expressing because I have become a part of her life, remembered all the good things that I have done for her and everybody that the prospect of losing and not seeing me again in her life is too much to bear.

This person was not aware that on the other hand, I have the same thoughts, however, because of so much pain, I dread coming back for example to the workplace or to be with all the same people again. Having realized that she might have contributed to the cause of that magnitude of pain, the thought is so unbearable that she was compelled to write me a letter. That person was surprisingly the least person you would think will be doing the surprising act. While a very close friend that was the original person I thought was sympathetic, who also wrote me another letter with the intention of sharing my pain, confessed that she too suffered the same experience and was deeply wounded by the same person that had now written to me and confessed being bothered by guilt. I do not deserve the hurt that I have experienced in the first place.

In good faith, armed with those information and feeling great compassion,I have acted wanting to help resolve the issue because it confirmed my belief that if I was so deeply affected and another close friend of mine got affected by the same issues, I should do something about it. I realized the act of wanting to help got me more into trouble and it had given me more hurt that my previous hurt.

Now,this person that had written, the act itself was indeed healing because I was given the chance to explain my views on the matter. However, because I have listened, I learned to communicate and have spoken from strength. Although some people appreciate my character, there were some aspects of my life that some people tried to change which I can’t do because it is making my life so difficult. Although there were some people that resented me for trying to help them, while I was away for the longest time, this person gave the matter some thoughts and due to the fact that she was open to receiving ideas and having presented some wonderful thoughts ead to the resolution of the problem.

This person who was so insecure with negative spirit and self-image after writing her true feelings, also found relief because she too was forgiven. The process healed the hurts that I had experienced. I truthfully received the person’s message with my compassionate heart that I felt her true feelings and it gave me reasons to help her in the process. To me success means beginning to trust again, believing and affirming that people are capable of changing. And everything became possible because during the time that I was hurting, I offered this person and my hurts to God and before New Year’s day all my dreams came true on how we should all conduct ourselves towards one another and it all begun because of compassion.