Fear of Love
Fear of Love
We look for love in so many places and we often get disappointed. Because what we are looking for is not really what we want. Instead of love, we want to be appreciated, we want someone to tell or show us that we are wonderful, deserving of their attention, gifted, talented, have something to offer that someone else wants and is willing to give us their love in return for our efforts. So we look for these things in every situation, taking on demanding jobs, relationships and life situations knowing that if we struggle hard enough we will eventually find the love we seek. But we're also afraid, not of love itself but that we won't get it. Our fear of love can be as great as our desire for it...
How many times have we tried to make things work, believing that if we tried harder, gave it one more chance, changed ourselves, that we would get the satisfaction we seek. And sometimes it works out the way we want. But the price we pay can be very high. Sometimes it doesn't work and we are disappointed, disillusioned, believing that we are deficient in some area, not able to gain the recognition we seek, not finding the value that we hope will be given to us in response to our efforts. Our fear of love has just been proven to be true and we believe that we don't deserve it or won't receive it, no matter how hard we try...
Our fear of love manifests in many ways. We choose partners who are not able to meet our need for love, we don't pursue our dreams, we don't accept a challenging job out of fear that we will fail, we don't follow opportunities because we are afraid of disappointment, that we will be inadequate or that we simply can't move away from wherever we are. Or we can fear that others won't accept us, understand us or acknowledge our efforts. The fear of love often manifests as self-sabotage, when we stop ourselves from succeeding out of fear that we will fail...
The fear of love can be healed by understanding our real reason for wanting to be loved and moving out of the focus on 'needing' love, in all of its forms, to 'being' love for ourselves. The world is an illusion, a hologram of our beliefs, perceptions, thoughts, words and yes, especially our fears. When we acknowledge the presence of unconditional love in every aspect of our being, we face the world with an outpouring of love and the world reflects that back to us. What is your fear of love? Where are you afraid that you will not receive the love you need in the form of value, acceptance, and respect? Release your need for love and be the love that you seek for yourself and watch it unfold in every aspect of your reality...
♥~Walking together in Love,Light & Awareness~♥
Laurence
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