If we succeed in changing our inner world, outer world changes too. That's why our task is to change our Pain into Joy. Pain is not Necessary and Spiritual, it's just a signal that low vibrations are present in our lifes. We all have a basic source of pain, our Sacred Wound, as it was mentioned previously. Wounds look like recordings in the depths of our energy fields.
 Our task is to find basic recordings and change them to joy. In lower chakras and lower parts of the body we can find recordings related to our self-esteem. In higher chakras we can find recordings realted to outer world.
What do we do? We just take out negative ones, find their sources in our life and childhood, and replace them. We should replace them with thoughts that bring us only joy. We can also remember other people's sayings that bring us joy, and record them.
In my case it was a wound of Indigo child, rejected and misunderstood. After that the fear and pain followed me whole my life, until I have found the means to threat that child and bring her joy. I gave her energy, that is very healing to any indigo child, I assured her, that she is very powerful, and can do everything with a little help from adults... Eventually she was open-hearted, fearless and joyfull.
That healing energy was silvery-blue, the energy of love and spirituality, that lacks in our everyday life. But while we perform cleaning, we should remember, that any blaming should be avoided. Blaming is very old energy, now it should be replace with higher feelings. If somebody blames you, just remember, that very soon he or she will have to change his mind. No blamings even towards people that were unfair to you, or towards yourself when you were unfair. Just withdraw from situation and let God deal with it. Besides, to place a postive recordings in your energy field, just realize the most beautiful person in the world, and record everything you would feel towards him and say. Because you just see your own beauty. Its' not narcissism, everybody deserves that.