Dearest friends, I offer free healing of the heart here, on lightworkers, and would like to explain how my own healing was performed. It doesn't mean that I reach perfection and have nowhere to go anymre. It just means the recieving of "diploma", one of many diplomas that we acquire on spiritual path. How did I receve this one?
My life was full of different challanges. The spiritual forces of fire and water entered, destroyed and cleansed my life. It was followed by destrcutions and calamities in outer world also.
But this forces also help us to reborn, they can give life also. Like Lingam - it creates life, but also is associated with weapons. I also noticed that wars are very sexual in their appearence - explosions, shots, small entities struggling and rushing towards the great aim... Masculine energy( symbolized by fire) is both destructive and creative, as well as feminine ( water). 
Here are thes polarities represented in simple drawing:
I pondered, and meditated and prayed. I simply opened myself to higher forces and allowed them to enter. In fact, this is the only real help we can offer ourselves.
 

The most important thing I learnt till now is discernment in energies. This is  very useful tool. What is discernment?
Many spiritually oriented people state, that there are no good or evil, everything is relative. Well, this statement is also relative. Because there are different levels of vibration, and we must discern them. What are these levels of vibration? Look at this drawing:
The Source sends his sparks forward, to come a long way and return to Him. This way is evolutional circle ( many people state it is not the circle, but spiral). The Spark is always connected to the Sorce on his way. This connection helps them to move forward, to align with evolutional circle. When you are aligned with it, your vibration is high. The energy aligned with evolutional force is positive. The energy that draws us back against evolution is negative. These forces exist within us as negative and postive energise. They are different according to the stage of evolution we are in. Every battle between dark and light, monsters and Angels are in fact battle between old and new.
In our life we encounter different negative energies. We must explode energies and discern them - either in ourselves, or in other people. We must clearly realize that low vibrating energies are not aligned with our real self, or real selves of other people. Don't take them to seriousely and don't allow them to enter your energetic field. That is discernment.
But energy of Love usually is send to any type of energy - negative or positive! That's why jesus said love your enemies, not only your friends.
The point is that energy of Love is discerning. If it reaches negative energy it tries to correct it and bring to alignment with source. If it reaches positive energy - it just multiplies her. Energy of Love is bringing justice everywhere.
So that's why we should refer to this energy everytime, send it to other people, and protect ourselves with it.
Discernent is also not easy. I found out that even my mother's attitude towards me was full of negativity and manipulation. It was hard to face this truth... She was always intereted in manipulation and control rather than in love. When she didn't succeed in manipulating, she started to hate and punish people around her. That is very difficult to bear.  But I used the discernment tool. First I separated all her negativve energies in my field, became aware and consciousness regarding them. These energies of hers were ruinning my life and personality, and it was absolutle necessary to become aware of them.
Then I send her energy of Love and Justice, as well as I healed with thsi energy myself. This tools must be used with victim and agressor as well, and it brings great relief. The Love-Divine Justice tool helped me to love, protect and appreciate myself in most appropriate way - according to the stage of evolution we are in.They taught me to become my own creator and protector. My mother's attitude didn't allowed me to do so. But now it is ended.
So, the first and most important lesson.... use the tools of Discernment and Love-Divine Justice.
To be continued,
Helen.