Dear friends, I am used to provide my posts with illustrations, but this function doesn't work yet.So I will provide them later, now let me share with you the lessons I learnt.
It is often said that when you overcome the problem and learn the lesson you feel grateful. Not really. You feel immensely grateful.
Eventually, when something is taken away from you, it means that it doesn't make you happy in real. You may think that you are happy with it due to some social cliches. But then the time of great challenge comes, when you overcome destructions and deprivation in your inner and outer life. You may think it is not fair.

But in real... All your life is just a dialog with God. There is only Him and You in this Universe.And eventually there is only Him.
So there is nothing occasional and unfair.

ALL IS GOD. ALL IS GOOD.

So if something is stolen from you, keep in mind that your happiness doesn't lie in it.
If it is taken away and you feel that this make you unhappy... it means that your mind partly resides in Illusion.
Many dear souls think that health is most important thing in this life. And then their health or health of their children is shattered. They perceive it as a great challenge and suffer. It happens because they think that they consist of their body, an forget that body is only the vessel.
Other people perceive emotional challenges as great suffering. But emotional body is also only the vessel for Spirit. Take rest, fix what is broken, as in the case of physical illness, and go on.
Illusion can't make you happy, so it is taken away from you.

In fact, we are trapped in illusion when our inner balance between male-female polarities is shattered. Remember my last drawing, representing these polarities. Spiritual Male that is balanced by Material Female, and Spiritual Female that is balanced by Material Male.
Spiritual Male is discerning illusion in this world and being connected to Source.Ascetism and self-denial in imbalanced state.
It is balanced by material Female - attachment to this world and its pleasures. Possesivness and greed in imbalanced state.
Spiritual female is grace, compassion, understanding. Victim and self-denial when imbalanced.
It is balanced by material male - aggression and active self-defense. Abusive, controlling and destructive power if imbalanced.
So different disbalances in these pair of opposites causes sufferings in our life. We suffer until we bring ourselves to equilibrium.
We overcome different losses and challenges when we lack this equilibrium. So analyze your life, see how these opposites interact in your life.
Imbalance is always illusion.
Remember the Truth about your life : ALL IS GOD. ALL IS GOOD. So the gratefulness is the only real response you have for your life.